The Topic of Our Time

Ending the last full day of the World Meeting of Families, a packed, out the door, auditorium hall for the topic: homosexuality and families, considering the whole person.

We are here to proclaim a message of hope for all those who struggle with this topic. That in the Church there is a home for those who want to embrace the Gospel call to chastity… that people with same sex attraction and their family and friends do not walk alone.

There is truth. And there is abundant mercy. There is the possibility of joy, and of heaven for those who have SSA.

The presenters are a Catholic male who struggles with same sex attraction, and his mother. This is the story of their struggles and their victories in grace.

What can families do? Be understanding, but also be calm in the truth of the Church. Let your kids know they are always your son or daughter, even if you can’t agree with a decision to act on these desires to enter into a same sex relationship.

Know, the mom says, that the trials and difficulties that come bring tremendous grace.

Know also that we should not pray to change our family circumstances, to take away the hardships, but rather that all the family members will find God in the truth.

Parents: do not focus on trying to change your children. Work instead on your own conversion of heart, your own marriage. Pray to hand it over to God. You cannot control your children.

Nor can you change the truth about human nature. People who act out on same sex desires will never be happy.

But they are seeking community and intimacy. They can find it in the company of those who are struggling to be faithful to be chaste as well. People with SSA should be directed to a group that will understand them and at the same time call them to fidelity.

Sons and daughters with SSA: learn to forgive your parents. Forgive those who have wounded you and maligned you. Forgive yourself.

Find yourself at the foot of the cross. There is no other way to find healing, and strength to be faithful. Christ understands our suffering! He suffers with us. And know that the journey will take a lifetime. No one is ever done integrating their sexuality.

And believe in the truth of the Church’s teachings, which are so misunderstood.

Parishes should not teach only about SSA and single out THAT difficulty. Instead, parishes should talk about ALL unhealthy acts- we ALL engage in disordered behavior, not just gay people. And, we should present not so much the do-nots, but the do’s- a beautiful life-giving image of healthy marriage and friendships. Parishes need to listen, and help, as a community, people with SSA live chastely, and help support married couples.

There is healing, there is hope in these beautiful stories here today.

About Father Nathan Reesman

On Twitter: @FatherReesman Father Nathan Reesman is a priest of the Archdiocese of Milwaukee, ordained in 2006. He is the Shared Pastor of Immaculate Conception Parish, and also of Saint Frances Cabrini Parish, both in West Bend, Wisconsin. Father Reesman is a graduate of the University of Wisconsin, Madison, obtaining his Bachelors of Arts in Political Science in the year 2000. He completed his seminary studies at Saint Francis de Sales Seminary for the Archdiocese of Milwaukee in 2006, obtaining a Masters of Divinity. Father Reesman completed post-graduate studies at the University of Saint Mary of the Lake, Mundelein, obtaining a Doctor of Ministry in 2019.
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